Sex in RPGs (NSFW of course)

As I continue to delve into Kult, I find more and more unexpected bits. In the version of the core rulebook I've been reading (1st American Edition), there's a list of suggested (not necessary, but just suggested) events that could occur, and if I'm interpreting the book correctly, the player characters are meant to be able to partake in these activities if they so wish. There's a lot of stuff you usually see in horror RPGs, like surveillance, infiltration, travel, magic rituals, combat, death, escape, and so on. But it also lists "Love and seduction" as well as "Sex." There's also a section of the book describing passions (often of a sexual nature) that can take over a character's life and cause supernatural things to happen, and it is clear that this can happen to PCs, although it does warn the GM not to allow this to happen to a character whose player is not comfortable with it.

Sex seems to be a sticky subject (snicker) for a lot of RPG players. Sexual material honestly hasn't been lacking in our Lamentations of the Fallen Lords campaign; nobody seems to shy away from it, mostly because it's funny but also because I think there's a certain transgressive-yet-harmless aspect to it that adds color to the game. On the other hand, I have a great deal of sympathy for groups who completely or almost completely avoid sexual material in their games, since that kind of thing can get extremely awkward, even creepy, at the speed of light. Even our group generally keeps sexual encounters involving an actual PC kind of vague, with most of the specific "action" being implied. The way I see it, it's fine as long as it's enthusiastic and consensual.

I just realized that makes it sound like our games are basically orgies. Hey, at least my wife is there.

You know what? I might as well give a quick, non-comprehensive list of sexual stuff that's come up in the campaign. It might be amusing.

• The Pale Lady (in the adventure named for her) offered to help the party if one of the party members with magical abilities impregnated her so she could continue her experiments with more offspring. One's sex was not an issue, since the Pale Lady had a potion on hand that would temporarily grant male genitalia to any woman who drank it. The party decided to distract her with the offer of sex while setting up an ambush. Willow, a female Journeyman, took the potion and came this close to actually getting intimate with the Pale Lady before the rest of the party sprung their trap and killed her. When Willow drank the potion, the group insisted I roll randomly to determine her penis length. I decided it would be 1d12 inches. I think I rolled a 2 or something - I'll have to ask if anyone remembers. Ever since then, the players have constantly requested I roll a d12 for male NPCs whenever sex seems likely.
• In Fuck for Satan, Jewbaba the Warrior (hey, I didn't pick the name) stuck an alien up his own ass. I felt so bad for the poor thing. This same character wanted to have relations with a horse in the earlier adventure Tales of the Scarecrow, but to his disappointment, they were all dead. I guess he didn't see a point in beating off a dead horse.
• No Salvation for Witches contained all kinds of sexual content. The leader of the coven of witches went around naked, and while nudity is not inherently sexual, Orelia was deliberately making a statement about gender inequality, so it was at least sexual in that respect. Also, some of the treasure the players found was in the form of expensive pornographic art, and at one point one of the party's Mages attacked a monster with a golden dildo while invisible and flying. I'm sure there's other stuff I'm forgetting.
• When the party first met Joop van Ooms at his house, they did some magic drugs with him. This made the party's Dwarf Muira horny, so she slept with Henry VII. I rolled the d12. He got a 12. He seemed confused by the encounter, but not displeased, since he had always wondered what sex with a dwarf was like.
• At some point, Muira also started wearing a necklace of tiny fake penises. Sometimes she adds more dicks to it.
• A secret sex club in the city of Tandem was wiped out by mysterious monsters. The party investigated and found out it was the work of Hymenials, monsters from Lusus Naturae. They killed the monsters and saved the employees and patrons of a brothel (many of whom were in flagrante delicto) in the process. The party's other Mage also started seeing a prostitute named Candy.
• Death Love Doom used sexual material in a number of ways I won't spoil here. I'll probably go into detail when I get around to writing our actual play reports.
• In Hammers of the God, a random magical effect summoned a green-skinned woman from Carcosa named The Bright Dominator, who instantly latched onto Raziel, another Journeyman. She refuses to wear clothes and insists on making wild, passionate love to Raziel every night, which heals him to full HP but annoys his fellow adventurers. She also has 1 HP and refuses to leave Raziel's side. He's actually been getting a bit fed up with her.
• In The Idea from Space, Willow and a Warrior who sometimes joins the party (unfortunately, I forget the character's name at the moment) made a sort of deal with a god of strength. The god would give them a boon if they performed a series of tasks within a limited amount of time, but would punish them if they did not. The tasks involved fucking, killing, and eating somebody. One of the pair (I think it was the Warrior) asked if swallowing the semen of the person they fuck-murdered would count as eating him. I said "why not." The two of them picked out a mutated, musclebound cultist of the god, double-teamed him, then beat him up and killed him. They got the god's boon. The sex was kind of average at best, since the mutant just plowed away with little regard for technique. Still, the players were satisfied that the plan worked.

I know there's a lot more stuff I'm forgetting. Anyway, my friends seem to embrace this kind of stuff, but it just wouldn't work in other groups. You really have to know your audience (or rather, collaborators). I could see some people being uncomfortable with their significant others playing in more explicit games, too. Where do you draw the line between, say, a ranchy play-by-email RPG and cybersex? I think there's a lot of difference, but not everyone will see it that way. Comfort is key here.

Still, everyone I play with is an adult and my friend. I trust them to communicate their feelings about the game's subject matter to me and each other, and I think we all respect each other's boundaries. It especially makes sense for deliberately transgressive RPGs like Kult and LotFP to put the possibility of sex on the table (giggle). Even AD&D had that Random Harlot Table. If someone out there wants to turn their game into an orgy, fictional or otherwise, and all parties involved participate in a safe, sane, ethical, consensual manner, more power to them. I'm not the RPG police.